How Will Your Lifestyle Change When You Have Kids?

By Jonathan Goodman | Follow Him on Twitter

I’ve spent the past two winters in Hawaii and Thailand. This winter I’m gearing up for a 45-day road trip in North America followed by many months in South America. Length of time has yet to be determined.

Today I posted on my Facebook page that my goal is to need less:

To go along with my upcoming trip my girlfriend and I gave up our lease, gave away all of our stuff, and booked a flight. When we get back, whenever that is, we’ll move into her family’s cottage and work from there until we decide where we want to go next. Or maybe we won’t come back. Who knows.

I preach freedom on a daily basis because with it, nothing else matters. When Mark asked me how my vagabonding, pick-up-and-go lifestyle will change when I have kids in the above status update, here’s what I said:

The short answer is that I don’t know and I’m OK with that.

I’ve never been a planner or goal-setter and I view that as a positive trait. My ignorance quotient has always been high and it’s allowed me to do what I’ve done and will continue to allow me to do what I will do.

If I really knew what it would take to do what I’ve done before I started doing it, there’s no way in hell that I would have started.

The long answer is that there’s an aspect of my life that I’ve never publicly spoken about. It’s relevant here.

When I was 24 and decided to write Ignite, start thePTDC, and attempt to create accessory sources of income, I had a single motive.

It was not freedom. It was not travel. It was not to get a beautiful and brilliant girlfriend.

Cambodia, winter 2013

My only motive was, and still is, that when I am 35 years old I want to be able to spend every waking moment with my children. I’m talking about every second that they want me there or I want to be there. This was the freedom that I always desired.

I am now 28, turning 29 in a little over a month. When I do have kids I’ll be able to spend every second with them. For this I am eternally grateful.

Alison and I have spoken at length about where we’ll live and what kind of life that we’ll have. Neither of us know. That’s largely why we keep exploring. Slowly things are becoming more clear.

The time will come pretty soon where she will desire to build a naturopathic medical practice and I will desire a more stationary life. What I’m doing now is not what I want to do for the rest of my life. When I have children, and that time will come pretty soon, things will change — change for the better.